Complaining is a complete energy vampire. It takes all the positive thoughts from your head and turns life into a miserable affair. Like attracts like, so if you’re miserable what do you think you’ll attract? More misery, more complaining, more stress.
Complaining is defined as: to express dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event.
I’m sure it feels good for a moment to have a criticism fest, but that feeling only lasts a moment. That “critical” moment can acknowledge shared problems and make you feel better for venting. But what good did constant commiserating and complaining ever do?
“You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses.” —Tom Wilson
To constantly grouse about the “state of the world” or all the problems you have or the massive amount of “what’s wrong-ism” leads you to exactly that. The problems. What you focus on gets all your energy. And you sound like you suffer from Bitter Betty-ism. Not attractive in the slightest. One of the greatest obstacles to lasting change is blame. And complaining finds its foundation almost entirely in blame.
Prolonged complaining leads to stress, and it’s well documented that prolonged stress makes us sick: weakening the immune system, raising blood pressure, increasing the risk of heart disease, obesity, and diabetes, and causing a plethora of other ailments.
Now, let’s be clear here, not complaining doesn’t mean not acknowledging problems. Most positive people are quite well aware of what needs to be done or what doesn’t quite “fit” in their world view. Perhaps instead of broadcasting loudly all the things that are “wrong” they just put their nose to the grindstone and do the work to make things “right”.
Try it. One whole day without complaining, whining, moaning, eye rolling, or whining. I know… I know… people make you mad. The world is against you. Your co-worker next to you will NOT stop talking as loud as she possibly can on her cell phone. No one knows how to drive but you. Your neighbors are absolutely awful and put up a horrid set of lawn ornaments complete with pink flamingos, all seven dwarfs, and a scarecrow that scares the neighborhood children . We all have things we “could” complain about. What’s the harm in trying ONE day without?
You might be amazed at the result.