Valentine’s Day can be difficult. Add being single to the never ending heart decorations and everlasting ads on the telly, and it can be brutal. Trying to overcome feeling lonely or dealing with a broken heart is more than difficult, especially when February 14 comes and all you see is people holding hands, red hearts, and the constant reminder you’re hurt and alone.
Sometimes when you feel alone, Valentine’s Day makes you either want to punch something, or cry your eyes out in your bedroom. It’s normal to feel fragile, especially when someone has hurt us. So when Valentine’s Day comes around, and there is a constant reminder of “Hey! You’re alone!” it can be difficult to block it out.
But are you really alone? Love doesn’t always have to come from a significant other or a sexual relationship.
I know you’re surrounded by the mainstream media telling you that V-Day is all about romantic love: sharing a love with a guy or a girl you love and are in love with. I’m here to remind you, that’s not all it is.
Valentine’s Day is a day for love of ALL kinds. You don’t have to be alone on this day because you aren’t.
Your parents love you, and you love your parents. You have friends and maybe children, remember that they adore you too. Take time to tell your loved ones how you feel about them… nothing makes a girl feel better than to share love with another.
Most importantly, you have you. Don’t forget to love yourself.
Be GOOD to yourself. Be KIND to yourself. This Valentine’s Day, devote time to YOU. Forget about schedules and the fast-paced world around you. Stay home and indulge in the guilty pleasures you don’t get enough of: favorite foods, reality television, a bubble bath or a new book. Go for a hike, take yourself out to breakfast or order a double scoop of your favorite flavours.
Give yourself a break to meet a friend for coffee or head to the spa for an hour or three. Bring those expectations down a bit and realise that life is NOT sitting squarely on your shoulders alone.
Time Out: Mark your calendar with “me time.” Read a good book. Relax in a hot bath.
Eat healthy: I know it’s tempting to gorge on whatever’s around or order takeout every night, but I seriously promise you that you will feel way better and more energized if you actually get some nutrients in your diet. Eat your veg and drink water, too!
Filter your self talk: Pay attention to what you tell yourself. Don’t give in to negativity.
If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, don’t panic.
Just know it’s okay, you’re not alone, and there are many other people out there struggling through the most romantic day of the year, too.
You can get through this and perhaps you’ll even enjoy it. Make it YOUR day, give yourself a dose of love. I think that’s something to get wonderfully sappy about.
Do you struggle with Valentine’s Day? How are you going to show yourself self love this year? We need to have a real discussion about this… because the most important love is self love! Hit me up on Facebook Twitter and Instagram.
